Spending your time being angry? Do you have a legitimate case for being angry? You can spend your day being the victim or you can make your activities focus on a positive outcome. Hoping your adversary falls and feels your pain is just not productive. Wishing he or she understands your pain, is really unproductive and time consuming. The job of each an every victim of anything in life is forgiving, moving past the pain and accomplishing. Having a life filled with love and happiness takes a lot of work.